wpadminIt’s true, there are no princes or perfect men. There are some pretty terrific men out there though, but it’s up to you to bring out their best. Any man you select as a partner has things about him you would like to change, have to tolerate, or wish would just go away.
A woman wrote to me this week telling me about some of her husband’s ‘flaws.’ They didn’t seem that bad to me. I reminded her that if she ‘traded him in on a newer model,’ the next one would have a new set of ‘flaws.’ I suspect that somewhere along the way this woman began to focus on the flaws, rather than on his good qualities.
This is an exercise I often recommend: Make a list of what you love about him, the things he does and says that make you smile, swoon, or tingle, what he quietly goes about doing to take care of you (the manly stuff), and how he enhances your life. Then, look at this list often and focus on those items, instead of his flaws.
Everyone has flaws, yes, even you, and everyone has good qualities (except the occasional sociopath and narcissist). Hopefully, you’re not involved with either of those types of men.
Oh, and I forgot to tell you, that list of good things about him, let him know you appreciate him occasionally, and offer one of those reasons why. You’ll get even more of those good qualities from him.
