wpadminIt’s not vacations, grand dinners, or detailed planning that causes love to grow and flourish.
Sure, those can be fun, but they don’t build love.
What builds love are all the little moments throughout the days. What’s funny is that most of those moments won’t even be remembered.
What’s remembered is how good it feels to be with your partner. And that very feeling is a big part of love.
Even if you’re just sitting together and reading. You’re in each others space, comforted that you’re close, even if you’re not consciously aware of each other. Love is building and being sustained.
When you slow down enough to just be together, doing mundane things, you’re building love.
One of the problems with big events is that you’re so busy doing that you don’t slow down enough to immerse yourselves in each others energy. Sure, you’re having fun, but it’s not the event, it’s that you shared it.
Okay, I love going out to nice restaurants. But what generally gets my attention is the environment, the ambiance, the food and wine. Yes, I’m aware of my boyfriend, but not in a way that I feel love. BUT…when I slow down and focus on how nice it is to be sharing everything with him, THEN I feel the love.
Does that make sense?
Love happens in those quiet moments in between all the doing and the busyness.
So my advice to you (which I’ve learned from years of experience) is, slow down, notice how you feel, immerse yourself in that feeling, and then open your heart to the love that is waiting for you to acknowledge.
What’s great is you can do this whether your partner is with you or not. Maybe you’re out on a walk by yourself. You’re feeling peaceful, alive, connected to the earth and whatever God is to you. All you need to do is choose to be aware, then let that settle into a feeling of love.
That’s all you need to do. That’s how love is built…from all the little moments.
