wpadminHave you noticed a trend going around that could easily be labeled: I Don’t Give-a-Shit About Anyone But Me. A good example is how people cross the street today. Do they purposefully walk as slow as they can? I feel like people have turned into human sloths.
I scurry because I don’t want to hold up the driver any longer than necessary. I certainly don’t cross the street staring at my iPhone, never once looking up. Maybe they’re so lost in the fascinating info on their phone that they simply don’t realize the car is there.
Along with not caring, they’ve become stupid. Do they not realize a car is a lethal weapon, able to, at the very least, break their legs if they only tap someone with their bumper? Before I step off the curb, I make eye contact with the driver, so I’m certain they know I’m there.
When someone holds the door open for me, I feel like a queen because it happens so seldom.
When it comes to relationships (all kinds, not just romantic) being considerate must be part of the mix or you’ll eventually be in trouble.
Why?
Because it shows you care. People need that, today more than ever. They need to know they matter.
Life is not just about going out, laughing with friends, getting drunk. It’s about being emotionally and spiritually available to experience those precious shared moments.
Doesn’t it feel great when someone ‘gets’ you? That creates a very special and unique bond.
At the beginning of a relationship, you pay attention to the other person. You look for ways to show them you care, and that you understand them.
Then, the newness wears off and, too often, it’s back to, “what’s in it for me?”
Listening, I mean really listening, to someone is an amazing gift of kindness and consideration. You can’t ‘get’ someone if you don’t pay attention to them.
When you look deep into each other’s souls, you feel seen. That deepens the bond you share. That can’t happen if half of your brain is waiting for the next text or Facebook update.
Do people today even know that it feels good to be kind and considerate? Maybe not. Maybe that’s at the core of this trend toward self-absorption.
I love it when I see an article or video about young people reaching out to help others or make the planet a better place. It gives me hope that we’re not doomed.
If you want to improve the quality of your relationships, I highly recommend ‘giving-a-shit’ a try. Go out of your way to be kind and considerate. Look for things that you can do to put a smile on someone’s face.
Go for a heart-to-heart connection and you’ll discover how good it feels. No iPhone can ever give you that.
