wpadminOne of the things I’ve noticed is that when women over 35 get back into the dating scene they get way too serious. It’s like they’ve taken on this mission and to accomplish it, they have to grit their teeth, put their head into the wind, and plow forward.
Come on, think about it, haven’t there been times when that’s what dating feels like? “Gotta get the goal, gotta get the man.” How fun is that? You know it wears you out, and that’s why you quit trying, or at least, take some time off.
To help you lighten your outlook on dating, would you please try being playful as an experiment.
Attitude colors every one of your experiences, EVERY moment, each and every day.
So here’s what I suggest you do. Sit quietly and think about going on a date, or getting started dating if you haven’t yet taken the leap. Notice how that feels in your body. Is there a sense of dread or excited anticipation? Does it feel like work or does it lighten your spirit?
If it feels like dread and work, instead, imagine being a little girl and going on a treasure hunt. Dating can be like that.
Make a list of what treasures you might find:
- Make a new friend
- Enjoy an opportunity to laugh
- Learn a new bit of useful or interesting information
- Enjoy the thrill of first touch
- Explore a new peek at who you can be
What can you find on your treasure hunt? Make a list of possibilities, then imagine going on a date with that girlish anticipation of what you’ll discover. Feel it in your body, then when you go on your next date, allow those feelings to guide you to all the treasures that are waiting for you.
